Thursday, February 11, 2010

Be Your Own Valentine

via Wedding Flowers

With this and my Peaches Present post, I fear I'm running the risk of having y'all think I'm a complete narcissist. Not so! However, over the years, I've learned the importance of self love. As in, you have to love and appreciate yourself in order to truly and fully love others. OK, I lied. I'm still learning the importance of self love.

When one is Type A and a perfectionist, like I am, this "self love" is not always an easy thing to accomplish. I am often yelling at myself that I could do something better, should have done that, shouldn't have done this, etc. You get the idea. I honestly have to stop and remind myself- hey, I'm OK.

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Additionally, we're heading into a holiday, Valentine's Day, which can be rather bittersweet. Whether you have a Significant Other or not, I encourage you to be your own Valentine first.
Take a moment and think about all the great qualities you have. Commit to be supportive of yourself and your work and efforts. Take care of yourself- your physical, mental, and spiritual wellbeing.

I happen to be traveling again this week (which explains my poor posts and even poorer commenting- I apologize!) and have had ample time with myself. As I've mentioned, I occassionally like to do my own "date night" and take myself out to dinner. These solo dinners after a long day aren't quite what I typically have in mind for date night, but it works. Your Significant Other may think you are completely insane if you suggest a solo date night, so that might not work for you.

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But perhaps you can take a few extra moments in the bath, go for a run (perhaps on a treadmill?), or just enjoy a moment of quiet. Maybe splurge a little bit. Buy a little somthing-something, have a great piece of candy, buy yourself flowers. But do something to recognize you.

This probably a little "touchy feely" for many of you, but it was a thought I wanted to share with you.

Happy Valentine's Day!



  1. I couldn't agree more, self love is important but I am Type A too sometimes so I have to work on that...

  2. I'm with you also. Being so Type A, it's difficult to cut your own self some slack! Have a great weekend!

  3. Self love is everything. I tell my daughter that daily. You can't be good to others if you aren't good to yourself so I love your post. Have a great weekend. Hope you are somewhere fun.

  4. Happy Valentines day to you too Emmie!!

  5. We all have a bit of Type A buried inside. Thanks for the reminder to us all to slow down and realize that we are pretty fantastic. Happy Valentine's Day!

    -Cara @ Live the Home Life

  6. Another Type A person here who could work on this. But, I have a great husband who gives me time to take care of myself. I am lucky.
    Happy Weekend.

  7. That pink rose filled plate is beautiful. And Insecurities plague us all. Thank you for sharing.

  8. Fabulous post! Happy Valentine's Day to you!!

  9. Emmie this is perfect and so wise. Valentines Day can be very bittersweet and it's great to read someone throw that out there. Do have a great weekend and safe travels to you. I think I need a solo date night!!

    xx deb

  10. You're so right -- even if you do have a S/O for V-day, ultimately you have to learn to love yourself, too, and treat yourself as well as you treat others. A think a lot of us (women in particular) forget that.

    Happy V-day, Emmie!

  11. I tell my daughter all the time to love her self! Great post to remind us what is important!

    Happy Valentine's Day and thank you for stopping by my blog and your sweet comments.


  12. Hi Emmie~ great post! I just returned from a 5 mile run and it felt SO good! I am most definitely a type A as well, but definitely not a perfectionist, actually the opposite, in an effort to get everything crossed off of my list I breeze through projects and don't make them the best.
    Happy V-Day to you.

  13. Happy Valentine's day Emmie!
    i guess i am type A, I am my worst critic...I actually accept people as they are, especially my family and friends, and do not try to change them...I wish i could be as gentle and genereous with myself...However, i do take time alone, it is necessary to my well being, would it be my trekking trips, walks in the wood, bath time, swimming early mornings or late night....My Valentine present to myself to day work. Just enjoying the snow, the blue sky, my walks..Happy Valentine

  14. it is so important to take time for ourselves... this enables us to give back to others... happy valentine's day... i love your blog... thank you for giving of yourself to all of us. x pam

  15. What a great reminder, Emmie! I took you literally and ordered myself a piece of jewelry. :) xxoo!

  16. Hope you had a fantastic V-Day weekend filled with love... ;)


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